Thursday, February 7, 2008
I would also like to ask you all to share with us the difference that 100 days of love has made in your life. This can be done via email ( firstname.lastname@example.org ) or by simply commenting below.
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
Tuesday, February 5, 2008
I had an interesting experience in one of my classes today. Without going into all the details, I learned a very important lesson about the power of touch. We did an exercise where we talked about the emotions of another class member. We stood behind them with our hands on their shoulders and talked as if we were them. As I participated the depth of care and concern about my classmates increased dramatically. I thought about how the activity would have been different had we not stood behind and had the physical contact. I know I would not have felt the depth of what others said. There is power in being physically connected to another in a caring way. Some of us need that power of human touch to feel the love others have to share. This can come in the form of a hug, handshake, or just putting your hand on another's shoulder. Let others FEEL the love and care you have for them.
Monday, February 4, 2008
Sunday, February 3, 2008
Saturday, February 2, 2008
Today I went to a yoga class, and one of the basic premises of yoga is tuning yourself into what your body is trying to tell you. The instructor even encouraged us to thank our bodies for the power of movement. Every ligament, joint, tendon, socket, down to the last cell, is a miracle. We forget sometimes what exactly goes into even the smallest twitch. We should do everything possible to be grateful for and take care of our bodies. It sounds trite but it really behooves us to eat well, sleep and excercise. (AND STAY THE HECK AWAY FROM TANNING BEDS!!!) This is different than loving oneself. This is taking care of our bodies so our bodies can take care of us and the people that we LOVE.
Friday, February 1, 2008
"Why is there prejudice in the world? I was talking to Marzia, one of my assistants whose family escaped the Taliban-ruled Afghanistan when she was just 5 years old, about an article in the most recent National Geographic about one of the several traditional tribes of people in Afghanistan that is considered inferior by all the other tribes and has been for centuries. They are descended from the horde of Genghis Khan who intermixed with the locals. Because she shares features with these people although none of her siblings do, she was teased a lot as a little girl. The words to the song from the musical South Pacific came to mind:
You have to be taught to hate and fear!
You have to be taught from year to year
It has to be drummed in your sweet little ear.
You have to be carefully taught.
You’ve got to be taught to be afraid
Of people whose eyes are oddly made,
And people whose skin is a different shade.
You have to be carefully taught.
You have to be taught before it’s too late,
Before you are six or seven or eight,
To hate all the people your relatives hate.
You have to be carefully taught.
TIL: Prejudice is a silly, irrational behavior that serves only to make one’s group feel elite only to itself. It is divisive, and along with religion, causes much hate and alienation in the world. Anti-love.
To do: Make a list of my prejudices and analyze them. Examine how they get in the way of love.
I am fortunate to have friends from many different backgrounds so I can expand my ability to love all."
Thursday, January 31, 2008
Wednesday, January 30, 2008
This made me think about the person I know that has most embodied love. He was constantly serving and loving others, and often did this while he was his way to do something else. He took time out to serve and love because that is what this life is really about anyways.
Tuesday, January 29, 2008
The word love has many different meanings in English, from something that gives a little pleasure ("I loved that meal") to something one would die for (patriotism, family). It can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love. Probably due to its psychological relevance, love is one of the most common themes in art and music.
Just as there are many types of lovers, there are many kinds of love. Though love is inherent in all human cultures, cultural differences make any universal definition difficult to establish. One definition attempting to be universally applicable is Thomas Jay Oord's: to love is to act intentionally, in sympathetic response to others (including God), to promote overall well-being. This definition applies to the positive connotations of love.
Expressions of love may include the love for a "soul" or mind, the love of laws and organizations, love for a body, love for nature, love of food, love of money, love for learning, love of power, love of fame, love for the respect of others, etcetera. Different people place varying degrees of importance on the kinds of love they receive. According to philosophers, the only goal of life is to be happy. And there is only one happiness in life: to love and be loved. Love is essentially an abstract concept, much easier to experience than to explain.
Monday, January 28, 2008
Sunday, January 27, 2008
Saturday, January 26, 2008
Today we had the wonderful opportunity to go hiking in the desert with some great friends. Being outside, where things haven't been developed, always puts new energy into my soul. I hope places like that will be preserved so that my children and others can enjoy them the way I do. And yet as we walked, there were several places where man had made his mark with deserted trash. I am shocked by how others can just leave trash lingering in the most beautiful places. It is so degrading to the beauty that has been given us. It is a selfish and thoughtless act, not only to the Earth, but to those who come after us. Lets all do our part to preserve the beauty around us, and to clean up the trash left by others.
Friday, January 25, 2008
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Hi everyone, it's the wife...My husband has a horriffic schedule today. No wonder there isn't any blog yet (it's about 7 p.m.) I know he really cares about the blog and hopes to finish it every day in the morning so all of you can read it. I guess you could say that he loves you. And I love him. I'm going to shout it from the rooftops! Anyway, this is how I'm going to show my love for him today. He's going to come home at 9 tonight (he leaves at 8 a.m.) and have a few things to do before he crashes, but this blog will not be one of them because I already did it. I anticipated his need. Do you think it's going to work? I hope so. The message today? Try to do something for someone to make his/her life a little better. Anticipate that need before it even comes up.
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Monday, January 21, 2008
Sunday, January 20, 2008
1.Play! This works for children, spouses, neighgbors, etc. Invite them to play a game with you. They will love it and so will you.
2.Get Active – After dinner, go for a walk. Feel-good endorphins will generate feelings of happiness.
3.Make a Card – It is easy and very thoughtful. Everyone loves to get a valentine!
4.Boogie Down – Share moments dancing together or just enjoying music!
5.Say it Sweetly – Cooking is one of the oldest and best ways to convey your adoration. If you aren’t up to cooking or baking, share a box of sweets.
6.Look for the Good – Tell someone in a note or verbally what your favorite thing about them is. Honest praise is remembered longer than a gift.
7.Make Coupons – Easy enough for kids to make, they can be redeemable for just about anything; a hug, a kiss, chores, etc.
8.End a Fight – Be the first to say, “I’m sorry” This inspires a lot of love.
9.Fill the Days – Write down silly and serious reasons you love someone on his/her calendar. It will make them smile all year.
10. King/Queen of the Day – Treat someone like it is his/her birthday even if it is not.
Saturday, January 19, 2008
Friday, January 18, 2008
Thursday, January 17, 2008
Today I am going to try to show love to a stranger. I am going to smile and genuinely thank the person in the check out line. I am going to pop that door open for the person coming in behind me. I am going to be courteous to others while I share the road with them. Why? Because we are all connected. We to them and them to us, and somehow, the fruits of those relationships is what nourishes our souls. If we sow anger, our soul will reap it. If we take time to nurture our relationships with family, friends, and yes, even strangers our souls will reap the benefits of pure love.
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
For those who veiw this blog, I would appreciate feedback and help to answer some of the difficult questions of love. I am no expert, but I know we each have experiences and successes that have taught us more about genuine love.
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
Monday, January 14, 2008
Sunday, January 13, 2008
Saturday, January 12, 2008
Friday, January 11, 2008
Thursday, January 10, 2008
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
Monday, January 7, 2008
Sunday, January 6, 2008
Saturday, January 5, 2008
Friday, January 4, 2008
Thursday, January 3, 2008
Wednesday, January 2, 2008
There is something significant about taking the time to think about what you want from this new year and then WRITING it down. Chances are greater that you will do something if you write it down. It doesn't mean you have to accomplish everything you think you want to do. But having a purpose helps us be more proactive about our lives. Start thinking about what you want. Don't just think in terms of the doing, but about the BEING. (See yesterday's post) What kind of a person do you want to BE? And then look at goals for how that kind of thing can happen.
Tuesday, January 1, 2008
Monday, December 31, 2007
Sunday, December 30, 2007
Saturday, December 29, 2007
Friday, December 28, 2007
Thursday, December 27, 2007
Wednesday, December 26, 2007
Tuesday, December 25, 2007
Monday, December 24, 2007
This is a wonderful season for giving gifts. I know for me it is easy to get into the habit of just making sure I have gotten a gift for each person on my list. However, I find that my gifts go so much further and mean so much more when they come straight from my heart and are laced with love. That is the joy of giving.
Saturday, December 22, 2007
Friday, December 21, 2007
Thursday, December 20, 2007
Wednesday, December 19, 2007
It's interesting that this is something we try so hard to teach our children, but somehow the concept is completely lost on us. It's almost as if we think that since we "earned" our things that they really are "mine." Sometimes we are just simply childish. For example, sometimes after I have made a sandwich for myself my wife will come and steal a bite. And for some silly reason I let this bother me. If I really understood the concept of sharing, I would be happy to share a bite of my sandwich, and would have even offered if she wanted some. There is something inherently loving about sharing.
We are now halfway through the 100 days. It has been an interesting learning experience so far for me. Please, all of you, share your thoughts, ideas, and experiences with us. You have no idea how much this helps us to continue with our motivation to be more loving people. You can either leave a comment, or email us at email@example.com.
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
A Precious Human Life
Everyday, think as you wake up:
Today I am fortunate
to have woken up.
I am alive;
I have a precious human life.
I am not going to waste it.
I am going to use
all my energies to develop myself,
to expand my heart out to others,
to achieve enlightenment for
the benefit of all beings.
I am going to have
kind thoughts towards others.
I am not going to get angry,
or think badly about others.
I am going to benefit others
as much as I can.
-His Holiness the XIV Dali Lama
Monday, December 17, 2007
Sunday, December 16, 2007
Saturday, December 15, 2007
Friday, December 14, 2007
"Tragedy, especially of such magnitude, has altered my perception of every aspect of life. Something that would have ruined my day a year ago is inconsequential to me now. Heavy traffic? Big deal. Flat tire? It happens. Get in a fight? So—grow up and make up. Did somebody say something to you that wasn’t loud enough for you to hear? You better not have yelled at them to speak up. Somebody made a mistake at work which cost you a few minutes? Then fix it—and I really hope you didn’t ruin the other person’s day out of the spirit of selfish retaliation! Yes, I realize this sounds Pollyanna-ish. I only hope I can hang onto this attitude, because life is much too short to be controlled by anger and stress. I’m becoming an idealist."
Thursday, December 13, 2007
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Lets all learn to really give. Giving is more than gifts, it is an attitude, one that is tangibly felt by the receiver.
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
Take the time to make the apologies that need to be made in your life. This may be small things that happen each day, or the larger ones that have been left unsaid in the past. We never know how much longer we have to actually make those amends... let's not gamble with that time.
Monday, December 10, 2007
Lets all remember how important quality time is to the people we love. Keep the future perspective in mind and use the time we have to strengthen our relationships.
Sunday, December 9, 2007
Saturday, December 8, 2007
Friday, December 7, 2007
Thursday, December 6, 2007
Let us all remember that we are never too busy to love.
Wednesday, December 5, 2007
Every day people do loving things for us. Most of the time we fail to notice the things they do. Sometimes this is because we are busy, tired, distracted, or simply oblivious. It is easy to gain the attitude that others may not care or that others are selfish. However, that is simply because our peceptions are tainted. Just like with normal sunglasses, we cannot see through the glare on the water or glass, we miss what is there because we are not able to see what is deeper. Lets put on our polarized lenses to see the bountious love others show to us.
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
Lets do what we can to focus our attention out of our own little worlds and be aware of the many needs that surround us each day, spoken or unspoken.
Monday, December 3, 2007
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Everyone that reads this: Take some food/coats/etc. to your local food bank to help those less fortunate this season.
Saturday, December 1, 2007
I see many people mistakenly assume that in order to be humble they have to point out their own flaws or even disregard complements and praise of others. This too is a block to love. Humility is not thinking less of one's self, it is just thinking more of others. It is the willingness to recognize the good in others without having to contrast it against one's self. Others can be good and worthwhile independent of how you feel about yourself, good or bad.
Let us each strive to have a more humble heart and notice and acknowledge the good in others. Lets stop minimizing the accomplishments of others to make ourselves feel better in some ways. You may be surprised at the love that fills your heart and mind as you do this.
Friday, November 30, 2007
We all are at different stages of increasing our love. Both being reactive and proactive are important parts of this, however, it is important not to neglect either of them. Let's be committed, as my wife is, to be more proactive in our expressions of love.
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Let's all take the time to care more about the people around us. As you do so, you will find your ability to love naturally growing and expanding.
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Show your love by making the sacrifices that show your love goes beyond mere convenience.
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
Monday, November 26, 2007
Lets try to be sensitive to the needs and pains and insecurities of those around us and let them feel of our genuine love.
Sunday, November 25, 2007
I hope we can all realize that differences are not all bad, sometimes they are just differences. If we learn to accept them we can push forward in our relationships with greater love.
Saturday, November 24, 2007
In the grander scheme of life, what will be most important? I believe it is the relationships we have established, and the loving natures we create in ourselves. All other things are secondary. Let's make first things first and be present.
Friday, November 23, 2007
Do not limit this to those outside of the family either. My dad is a wonderful example of a loving person to those outside and inside his family. Last night, during a conversation, he expressed his gratitude for us in a very sincere and loving way. It felt so good to be loved and appreciated. Find a need, and fill the need.
Thursday, November 22, 2007
Today, to all who read this blog, leave a comment about the things you are grateful for. Help us all to remember the true blessings we share in our lives. How inspiring it will be tomorrow to read all the comments of gratitude, and continue the spirit of Thanksgiving.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
As we are all presented with many opportunities to test our patience the next couple of days, let's let patience fill our hearts with love.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Let's all try to be a little more considerate today and not let our own selfishness get in the way of treating people with love and compassion.
Monday, November 19, 2007
Sunday, November 18, 2007
Take time to tell the people you love that you really do love and appreciate them. It will make a difference for you and for them.
Saturday, November 17, 2007
Also, if you have not commented on the Roll Call... please do so. It is a couple posts down.
Friday, November 16, 2007
Thursday, November 15, 2007
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
May we all strive to show love, even when we may feel awkward or out of place. This is where the true growing takes place.
Monday, November 12, 2007
Lets all be aware of the limits we often place on our love. Are those limits placed there by ourselves in order to preserve our pride? If so, we are only prohibiting our ability to love more.
Sunday, November 11, 2007
Saturday, November 10, 2007
"The art of being yourself at your best is the art of unfolding your personality into the person you want to be. . . . Be gentle with yourself, learn to love yourself, to forgive yourself, for only as we have the right attitude toward ourselves can we have the right attitude toward others." - Wilfred Peterson
Take the time to love yourself. Maybe write a list of qualities you admire in yourself. Recognize your own self worth... because you have great worth!
Friday, November 9, 2007
It is an important factor of love to recognize even the things we perceive are small. There are many people who feel like they do not have any power and their contribution, no matter the size, is unimportant and unappreciated. Imagine the change that can happen when they are recognized and appreciated. Lets be the start of that change... look for even the smallest contributors, and show appreciation and recognition.
Thursday, November 8, 2007
Wednesday, November 7, 2007
The themes of each day are merely thoughts that I have had, or ideas others have given me. They may even be helpful suggestions. Feel free to work on increasing your love in whatever way seems best to you. If you are struggling to increase your love, just read through each day, and comments from others for ideas. This is what I do.
Also, I have had another idea. On Monday, a friend of mine shared a story of how the 100 days of love has made a difference in her life as well as her family's. It was a very touching and inspiring story to me. I realized stories like these might be inspiring to you as well. So I am requesting that if you have success stories to email them to me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Names will be kept confidential, but I will post these stories as I see fit to help inspire us all to love more.
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
Monday, November 5, 2007
Last night I had the opportunity to share Sunday dinner with Tammy and her family. It was a great experience. We talked about the power of attitude, and Tammy talked about how Bryce always believed that our attitudes were our choice and a decision we had to make. This inspired my decision this morning to change my attitude. I believe this is an act of love. We are more able to love when our attitudes are congruent with giving and receiving it. Let us all CHOOSE to have a good attitude each day.
Sunday, November 4, 2007
What a difference it would make in the world if we could each live without the fear of others looking down their nose at us! To be accepted for who we are. People do not generally change unless they feel cared about by someone. Let us each be the person who cares for someone and looks past the imperfections we ALL have.
Saturday, November 3, 2007
Yesterday was a day to simply serve. I woke up in the morning and realized I could make breakfast for my wife while she got ready for work. This simple act allowed her to sit down and enjoy breakfast instead of having to hurry off to work. I also live on a street where most of the people are older and retired. A few have a harder time getting around. I noticed that the leaves were pilling up on their lawn. Normally, I would have thought... man, they should rake their leaves. But instead, having the spirit of love, I grabbed my rake and did it for them. One of them even came outside with a big smile and said thank you.
We can all do simple things to serve one another, and we never know how much of a difference it will make in another person's life. Everyone, keep up the great work... not every day will be easy, but that is to be expected. Just do your best.
Friday, November 2, 2007
Yesterday I tried to focus on the small things that are easy to forget and look past. A few weeks ago someone I know asked me to do a favor for them. At the time I was a little bugged, which was silly of me, but as I did the favor I got a lot out of it. Yesterday I took the time to go and thank that person for the opportunity they provided me. I also made sure to compliment people more. I love the peaceful feelings that come as I do these things.
Here is a little inspirational thought from Shel Silverstein:
Thursday, November 1, 2007
My challenge yesterday was forgiveness. Unfortunately, there are people in the world who are bitter and angry, and some of those people thought it necessary to make comments on this blog. I was shocked by the rude words and misunderstanding of the challenge. Thankfully, I was focused on increasing love and I remembered the example of some who have come before me. I took the viewpoint that these people did not understand what they were doing, and had obviously been hurt at some point by someone. I forgive them for the comments they made, and I am truly sorry if some of you had to read them before they could be deleted.
I was reminded of the response of the Amish people to the gruesome murders of some of their people. A man, whom we respect greatly, and who has recently passed away, related the experience as such:
In the beautiful hills of Pennsylvania, a devout group of Christian people live a simple life without automobiles, electricity, or modern machinery. They work hard and live quiet, peaceful lives separate from the world. Most of their food comes from their own farms. The women sew and knit and weave their clothing, which is modest and plain. They are known as the Amish people.
A 32-year-old milk truck driver lived with his family in their Nickel Mines community. He was not Amish, but his pickup route took him to many Amish dairy farms, where he became known as the quiet milkman. Last October he suddenly lost all reason and control. In his tormented mind he blamed God for the death of his first child and some unsubstantiated memories. He stormed into the Amish school without any provocation, released the boys and adults, and tied up the 10 girls. He shot the girls, killing five and wounding five. Then he took his own life.
This shocking violence caused great anguish among the Amish but no anger. There was hurt but no hate. Their forgiveness was immediate. Collectively they began to reach out to the milkman’s suffering family. As the milkman’s family gathered in his home the day after the shootings, an Amish neighbor came over, wrapped his arms around the father of the dead gunman, and said, “We will forgive you.” Amish leaders visited the milkman’s wife and children to extend their sympathy, their forgiveness, their help, and their love. About half of the mourners at the milkman’s funeral were Amish. In turn, the Amish invited the milkman’s family to attend the funeral services of the girls who had been killed. A remarkable peace settled on the Amish as their faith sustained them during this crisis.
One local resident very eloquently summed up the aftermath of this tragedy when he said, “We were all speaking the same language, and not just English, but a language of caring, a language of community, [and] a language of service. And, yes, a language of forgiveness.” It was an amazing outpouring of their complete faith in the Lord’s teachings in the Sermon on the Mount: “Do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.”
The family of the milkman who killed the five girls released the following statement to the public:
“To our Amish friends, neighbors, and local community:
“Our family wants each of you to know that we are overwhelmed by the forgiveness, grace, and mercy that you’ve extended to us. Your love for our family has helped to provide the healing we so desperately need. The prayers, flowers, cards, and gifts you’ve given have touched our hearts in a way no words can describe. Your compassion has reached beyond our family, beyond our community, and is changing our world, and for this we sincerely thank you.
“Please know that our hearts have been broken by all that has happened. We are filled with sorrow for all of our Amish neighbors whom we have loved and continue to love. We know that there are many hard days ahead for all the families who lost loved ones, and so we will continue to put our hope and trust in the God of all comfort, as we all seek to rebuild our lives.”
How could the whole Amish group manifest such an expression of forgiveness? It was because of their faith in God and trust in His word, which is part of their inner beings. They see themselves as disciples of Christ and want to follow His example.
Hearing of this tragedy, many people sent money to the Amish to pay for the health care of the five surviving girls and for the burial expenses of the five who were killed. As a further demonstration of their discipleship, the Amish decided to share some of the money with the widow of the milkman and her three children because they too were victims of this terrible tragedy.
Forgiveness is not always instantaneous as it was with the Amish. When innocent children have been molested or killed, most of us do not think first about forgiveness. Our natural response is anger. We may even feel justified in wanting to “get even” with anyone who inflicts injury on us or our family.
Dr. Sidney Simon, a recognized authority on values realization, has provided an excellent definition of forgiveness as it applies to human relationships:
“Forgiveness is freeing up and putting to better use the energy once consumed by holding grudges, harboring resentments, and nursing unhealed wounds. It is rediscovering the strengths we always had and relocating our limitless capacity to understand and accept other people and ourselves.
We feel that forgiveness is one of the supreme acts of love. May we each seek it and give it to those around us.